It’s easy to pay attention to what we don’t want, isn’t it? Remember that our brains are so good at neuroplasticity that wherever our thoughts go we will create pathways – and the more we stay on those particular “what if” pathways the better we’ll… Read More »Living In Fear Creates More Of What You Don’t Want
I don’t know huge amounts about Buddhism, but something I aim to use often is the idea of not becoming too attached to outcome. It’s great to have goals while acknowledging we can’t control everything that happens. I love this quote that a recent client… Read More »Taking The Pressure Off
Here’s a reminder, just in case you have been, somewhere in your life – at work, in your family, with your friends – been playing small. If you’ve done the Lightning Process with me, I have probably given you the extract of a speech by… Read More »Are You Playing Small?
How about writing a list of all the things you achieved/enjoyed/made happen in 2024? give it some time, and keep coming back to it. You’ll be surprised…….include the small things and the big things. Maybe you made a new friend, cleared the loft, did a… Read More »What I’m pleased with from last year
What one word describes how you feel at this moment? And what one word describes how you’d like to be feeling right now? Choose that word as your mantra for 2025: You will notice how your perspective, your attitude and your behaviour will begin to… Read More »How Do You Feel Right Now?
We all have ideas, don’t we, about what kind of person we are, what our upbringing was like, how good a friend/partner/parent we are. We may tell ourselves all sorts of things about ourselves: “My parents treated me badly” “I’m the only one who does… Read More »The Stories We Tell Ourselves
There is a chapter in ‘Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff’ by Richard Carlson, entitled “If someone throws a ball you don’t have to catch it”. Now, although my big brothers definitely didn’t bring me up that way (I had to catch any dishcloths, balls or… Read More »You don’t have to catch the ball
Us humans can be very good at living in fear. We can spend lots of time fearing things we really don’t want to happen We often use the words ‘what if….’ to begin our sentences, those sentences we create in our heads when drifting off… Read More »How To Stop Living In Fear
How To Stop Arguments I’ve borrowed – and tampered with – this one from (The Great) Phil Parker, because I think it’s so important.Thanks, Phil! There are plenty of examples of conflict and arguing around us, maybe in our daily life, and certainly in the… Read More »How To Stop Arguments
“I had a dream I was awake, and I woke up to find myself asleep.” — Stan Laurel Do you sometimes have trouble with sleep? Going to sleep? Or maybe staying asleep? There are probably 3 main ways of improving your sleep 2. Isn’t the… Read More »Top Tips for Sleeping Well